Day 78 : 9.The Principle of Making Love Real

9. The Principle of Making Love Real

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Nurturing and honouring the utmost potential in every individual (including myself) wherein love is not a feeling or emotions, but an action sthat is lived by doing whatever is necessary to support without compromising myself or the other - without fear of "losing" the relationship or the feelings associated to love, and without accepting or allowing less than my own or my partner's utmost potential.( source : https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles) 

Few years ago, I have been into my love and light phase, where I was convinced that ''sending'' love was having a positive impact on the world. I mean I studied the work of Emoto and saw how the word ''love'' was creating the perfect beautiful structure of water crystal. When I look back, I realize that my love and light phase was the greatest phase of self-interest I have ever gone through. I could I pretend that love would solves things like poverty when I myself was relying on having my basic need met to be able to feel that love. With common sense, I could easily have seen that the world wasn't lacking love as a feeling. In fact love was the justification to allow the abuse to perpetuate itself. Later on when I have been expose to the Desteni material I have been snapped out of my delusion. I realize that Emoto wasn't in fact understanding what the fuck he was doing lol. I realize that the structure of the water crystal was in fact a reflection of our consciousness. I realize that trying to use love as a feeling to bring any change in this world was retarded. 

Later on, I realize that real love is shown through real action in the physical world. A mother that feed her child is doing an act of real love. A parent that wake up in the middle of the night to take care of his child that is crying despite of how he feel is doing an act of love. Real love is in fact measurable in the physical world. Love as a feeling can always been use to deceive and manipulate other. 

 

So in the fucked up system we are currently living in, what would be the greatest act of love possible if love is what we do. If we look at the amount of people that die from starvation everyday, we might realize that we are not that loving.

 With that in mind, Creating a world system that's best for all become the greatest act of love that someone could ever conceive. Do we know all the detail ? Nope, but we know that everybody have basic need. So let's start there.  

I am not stupid, I know that I won't change the system on my own. I must be self-honest and ask myself if I as individual is doing the right thing to bring change within the system so we could eventually have a world that's best for all.

 

Day 77 : The principle of self-trust

 

8. The Principle of Self-Trust

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No matter what hardships, failures, and mistakes I may face, I always come back to myself and the principles that I stand as. I will not give up or allow myself to blame others for the circumstances of my life or how I choose to live it. I take absolute self-responsibility. ( source : (https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles) 

It's virtually impossible to have any form of Self-Trust if I have not clearly define the the principles that I chose to stand as. The principles are stable, emotion and feelings are not. Once I have establish a stable reference point, I must then trust myself that I will do my best to live those principles , not out of belief, but out of common sense and understanding of the fact that living those principle will end my inner personal conflict. 

Once the guideline, have been establish, it's then easier to trust myself, because I have a measurable reference point and I can see if I am deceiving myself or not.

Now I can direct myself moment by moment and trust myself that I will do what I see as being best in every moment. My understand of what's best can still be limited in certain case, but that's where self-trust come in. I must within my current limited understanding trust myself and the best I can with what I have. When I find myself making mistake, I can learn lesson from them and move forward. 

Self-Trust is essential to move forward. It's ok to observe those who are more advance in their process and take advice from them, but at the end, I must be the one that direct myself. If I rely on any external force to move myself, I am not directing myself and give away my responsibility. In fact, I shouldn't never trust anyone else than myself, that would be stupid. As we move on, everyone will learn how to trust themselves and develop real integrity. Therefore instead, of asking to people to trust me, I rather show to them how to they can trust themselves. I like this audio from Bernard where he say that he is not interest of anyone trusting him, he is interested about people trusting themselves. That make sense ! 

Day 76 : 7. The Principle of Give as You Would Like to Receive

Considering the context and the lives of each individual being. Considering, regarding, and supporting them in the way that I would have liked to be considered, regarded, and supported had I been in their place and lived their life, where the support that I give does not compromise myself or cause harm to anyone. ( Source : https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles) 


The way I lived this principle is that I put myself in the other person shoes like if it was me in another life. Based on the 8 stage of the process I can clearly see where the person is at, what they are ready to hear and what they need to hear. With that starting point in mind I will support that person as I would like to have been support where I was there. When I was delusional for example, I was grateful that someone confront me on this fact and lead me to be self-honest. Later on I was able to see how lying to myself was preventing me to changing for real.

So does give as I would like to receive mean that I will give a hug to every person that I met. Fuck no! I certain case a person will need a tap on the back, but in other case some person need a kick in the ass ( A wake up call). So I am not interested about offering people what they want, I am interested of offering them what they need. Because I am clear within the principle that I am standing for, it's easy to direct myself moment to moment to know what's the best thing to do in every situation. That's exactly how I would like to be treat. I don't want anybody to support my delusion, so I will not do that for anyone else. 

Of course it's a process, and I cannot be perfect on this from the start. But as I move on and learn from my mistake. 

On a collective level, the actual system is based on competition. It make it very hard to give as we would like to receive because we are all busy about our own survival. The ultimate way to give as I would like to receive will be to stand as a groups and change the system so we can cooperate with each other to create a better world for everyone.  Within the limitation of the current system, I can still do my best to create win win win situation.

Day 75 : 6. The Principle of Self-Awareness

An active reflection and seeing of what is happening inside myself - my thoughts, emotions, feelings, reactions, and understanding that I am at all times responsible for what I accept and allow and what I participate in and thus give my power and attention to. To realize that my words become deeds and thus the words I allow within become the actions and consequences I create without. ( source https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles) 

I had an interesting experience with Self-Awareness. I always know about self-awareness, but I wasn't really able to lived it without really grasping it why. I remember when I read the books the power of now from Eckart Tolle, I realize that I could actually observe my emotions/feeling and thought. Even if I was aware of that, my mind was still in auto pilot and my level of self-awareness was still pretty low. In fact I had no idea how my mind was actually working. I had no idea where those thought/emotion/feeling was coming from. Since the consumerism have take over the world of personal development, reading some books and listening to some audio on the subject wasn't really helping. Everyone seems to have a different perspective about how the mind works, what's a thought etc. 

It's only when I have been expose to the Desteni tools that I start to actually understanding how the mind was created. The cool thing was that I didn't to believe anything, I could look up myself and see it first hand in the real world. As I started using the tools offer by Desteni, my self awarness start to increase to a level that I had never experience before. Having a higher level of self-awarness allowed me to take a greater level of self responsibility. It allowed me to change to the core. It allowed me to respond completely differently to the challenge of life. Now I can clearly see, that very few people can experience real self-awarness. I can see how Eckart Tolle students will be stuck their entire life. 

Being Self-Aware allowed me to see the lie that I have become. For the first time I started to see clearly how I have deceiving myself and other. I also to start how everyone else was deceiving and manipulating each other. It was crazy. I see the world for what it is : Absolute deception. It was a hard pill to swallow but the good news was that I had finally a way out. I have to walk in reverse. 

Day 74: 5. The Principle of Self-Responsibility

Living and applying my ability to respond within the realization that I alone am responsible for what I accept and allow inside myself, my relationships, and my outside world. Only I have the power and ability to change that which is compromising who I am, what I live, and how this affects others.( source : https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles

The principle of Self-Responsibility is one of the most empowering concept I have ever been exposed to. The principle of self-responsibility implies that I am the only one that can create change in my life. For many years, I was convinced that I was taking responsibility for everything in my life. I didn't know how wrong I was. Even if I wasn't blaming anything outside of me and saying that I was taking responsibility for everything in my life, I was far from living it. Why? because I had no idea that I was really living the outcome of a pre-program design. Therefore, A higher level of responsibility imply that I must take responsibly for everything that I have accepted and allowed as a part of my structural programming. I must realize the outcome of a programming that is not considering all life. A programming that is based on survival will never have an outcome that is best for all life.I must realize that sooner or later, a collective programming based on self-interest will lead to our own annihilation.

What I end up realizing is that Self-responsibility is in fact a process. I must work on expanding my level of self-responsibility more and more every single day. I must investigate how I am limiting my responsibility and see how I can the highest level possible of responsibility in this world. Walking my own process is a way of expending, my level of responsibility, because it allow me to have a greater level of awareness of the consequence of everything that I say, do or even believe. I must then use the tool to change that fundamental programming for a programming that is the best for all life. That way, I will also benefits on a individual level as well, because by doing what's best, I end up the inner conflict within me.

Day 73 : 4. The Principle of Investigate All Things and Keep What Is Good

4. The Principle of Investigate All Things and Keep What Is Good

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I unconditionally investigate, consider, and introspect all aspects, expressions, perspectives, and avenues of life and assess what can practically be applied within the Principle of What is Best for All.  ( source : https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles) 

When I investigate the word ''beliefs'' for the first time, I realize that a belief was really just a vague idea that we have accepted as true. I then realize that every beliefs that I had was in fact limiting me. A child for example doesn't have any beliefs, he is pure expression of life, pure potential in a way. He then integrate the set of beliefs from their immediate environment. The problems is that if I chose to investigate something from the filter of my beliefs, I will only see what I want to see and reject everything else. Later on, as I have been expose to the Desteni message, I then realize that what's best for all doesn't require any belief, with common sense, we can both agree on what's in the best interest of all. I often use an extreme example to show the point to other people. I think we can all agree that it's not best for a child to starve. Those who disagree with that are mentally ill and require support. 

So once I realize that, I realize that it would be in my best interest to give up all beliefs. I start from scratch, I will be open and start to investigate everything to find out what's real, what's true. By directing myself with the principle of what's best, if what I am investigating have value or not. By having that in mind, I don't have any background fear of investigating any source of information. It doesn't matter if the information came from the mainstream media, a fucked up documentary on YouTube, A secret society, a channeller, a psychic etc. Of course at some point, I will not waste my time with bullshit either, but not having any fear of  being wrong, give me a massive advantage and allow myself to move faster in my process. 

Investigate everything doesn't stop at investigate the information in the world, I must also investigate everything that is happening within me: thought, emotion, feeling, reaction, fear etc. By increasing my awareness of what's going on within me, I can then clearly see if the way I am programmed is best or not. I can also go deeper and start to investigate my past to understand what I have accepted and allowed that is still holding me back to do what's best in the present.

Day 72: 3. The Principle of Self-Perfection Through Self-Creation

3. The Principle of Self-Perfection Through Self-Creation

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Self-Perfection is the process of reflecting on and investigating myself through writing, releasing myself from the past through Self-Forgiveness, and changing myself through Self-Application and living change. These tools allow me to develop a deep intimacy with myself, enabling me to see the workings of who I am, how I came to be this way, and how to create myself into the best possible expression of myself that I can be. (source :https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles)



The first time I have been expose to that process, I started to asked myself some question like. Why would I need to forgive myself? Did I done something wrong? I mean I was a good citizen according to the system, so why would I need to correct myself?

Later I realize that I was just limited in my ability to see and fully understand the consequence of was I was doing by participating in a system that was creating abuse by it's very design. Like the red pill in the Matrix, it was a hard pills to swallow. I understand why so much people rather stay in delusion instead of realizing the harm that they are causing in this world in this very existence.If nobody would need to correct themselves, we would have heaven on earth.

In order to understand the process of self-correction, I needed to first understand how my programming have been establish in the first place. I have been explain that in our first 7 years of life we are in phase where we integrate information in our environment at quantum speed. This information that we are exposed to become a part of our fundamental programming. I didn't have to believe anything, I could see it from my very eye. By understanding this concept, the idea of walking in reverse start to make more sense to me. I have to go back to find what will remain, when I will strip myself away from everything that is not me as pure expression of life as I use to be before I got a mind.

The next step for me, was to find what I actually need to forgive. I made a rule for myself to be able to direct myself more effectively in my self-forgiveness. I ask myself is that behaviour is best for all. Another way to say it is, if 7 billions people would have that behaviour, would the world would the world would be better or worse. This is where the self honesty came in. I could attempt to justify my delusion. I must really consider the big picture and not trapped myself into a positivity cycle, where I think I am a good person conceptually. I need to honestly investigate the consequence of what I am doing or not doing.

Now, how do I measure my process. How do I know that my change is real. Well, that's again where self-honesty is require. I have been convince in the past that I had change, when in fact, I only change as character, not fundamentally at the resonant level. I must find measurable way to measure my change in the physical world. Exposing my process is also a way for other people to see if I am changing, or lying to myself. The process is a 7 years process, but what I am always looking at is the next point that limit me to do what's best that I need to work on.