Day 76 : 7. The Principle of Give as You Would Like to Receive

Considering the context and the lives of each individual being. Considering, regarding, and supporting them in the way that I would have liked to be considered, regarded, and supported had I been in their place and lived their life, where the support that I give does not compromise myself or cause harm to anyone. ( Source : https://desteni.org/about-us/desteni-principles) 


The way I lived this principle is that I put myself in the other person shoes like if it was me in another life. Based on the 8 stage of the process I can clearly see where the person is at, what they are ready to hear and what they need to hear. With that starting point in mind I will support that person as I would like to have been support where I was there. When I was delusional for example, I was grateful that someone confront me on this fact and lead me to be self-honest. Later on I was able to see how lying to myself was preventing me to changing for real.

So does give as I would like to receive mean that I will give a hug to every person that I met. Fuck no! I certain case a person will need a tap on the back, but in other case some person need a kick in the ass ( A wake up call). So I am not interested about offering people what they want, I am interested of offering them what they need. Because I am clear within the principle that I am standing for, it's easy to direct myself moment to moment to know what's the best thing to do in every situation. That's exactly how I would like to be treat. I don't want anybody to support my delusion, so I will not do that for anyone else. 

Of course it's a process, and I cannot be perfect on this from the start. But as I move on and learn from my mistake. 

On a collective level, the actual system is based on competition. It make it very hard to give as we would like to receive because we are all busy about our own survival. The ultimate way to give as I would like to receive will be to stand as a groups and change the system so we can cooperate with each other to create a better world for everyone.  Within the limitation of the current system, I can still do my best to create win win win situation.